I just read THIS article and thought there was a lot of good stuff in it. I’m curious as to what your thoughts are?
As someone who blogs, and who has blogged for several years through several new phases of life, this is something that I think about occasionally. I’ve mentioned on here before that while people read regularly, the amount of “life” stuff that gets posted on the blog whether it’s about our family specifically, or our life and ministry in Haiti, is really only about 5% of what really goes on for us. There are a lot of reasons for that.
One thing that became evident in the last year was that it was a security issue for us as a family, and that people could intentionally use the things we say on this blog to make life difficult for us or the mission as a whole. That was HARD to deal with, especially when we know what our intentions are on any given day. It’s hard to let stuff roll off when people are so directly trying to attack you and your motivation for doing something. HARD.
There are a lot of times where I share the funny things that Olivia says, or little stories from our every day life but I do try to think about how she’ll feel about those things ten years from now, fifteen years from now, twenty years from now… I want her to read back and feel like it’s a bit of a window into who she was at this age and our lives at the time, not an expose with all sorts of things that embarrass her. When I write the “Dear Olivia” posts they are a bit more personal, but I’m always trying to think along those same lines – what will be honoring to her when she’s older?
As far as personal family stuff goes, we like to give you a window into our lives, and especially our lives in Haiti. I think it’s good to talk about the hard things, but I do self edit in there too. I think that’s wise and safe and respectful. I won’t share certain details about our marriage, but I might share how we’re managing to move through things as a couple. I won’t share certain details about our family, but I might share how we’re moving through things as a family unit and how those things are affecting us and what we’re learning. I hope that through those things we can open doors for people to learn and connect.
I do struggle with “mommy bloggers” who put everything out there, even if they give their kids nick names in their posts. I guess for me it’s the knowledge that at some point your kids are going to be big enough to be on the internet and connect the dots and even if no one else knows that they’re your kids, they’ll know they’re your kids. And that could be really damaging to your relationship. Really damaging.
We always want our blog to be a way for people learn about our family, to connect with us, to learn about our lives and our ministry and life in Haiti. But, there are definitely things that get the “don’t post that on the blog” rating. And they don’t get posted. We love that while home we’ve met a ton of people that read and follow our blog. I sometimes wonder what they think of us when they meet us face to face :) I think we’re pretty good about being real, just based on the fact that the people that do know us tell us that they love that they can hear me talking as they’re reading because I write the same way I speak, that it is just me being real and honest. But, there are parameters and I try to be thinking about certain things as I am sharing. I won’t ever say anything that could be hurtful to someone else. I won’t say anything that I know could be hurtful to my kids down the road. I will talk about the things that are difficult about living in Haiti, but I will always try to do it in a way that respects people and their culture.
So, what are your thoughts? Is there too much sharing online now?